How to Magnify Your Bright Spots

How many of us focus on all of our imperfections? How many of us look at what we can improve, instead of congratulating ourselves on a job well done thus far? Of the seven plus billion people on our planet, I’m going to go out on a limb and say, not many. We live in a world where the focus is mostly on the negative; headlines and news filled with so much negativity and unfortunately, it’s what ‘sells.’

Case in point, if a child comes home with two A’s, one B and an F on their report card, the parent, any parent would most likely skip over the A’s and B and ask what happened with the F on their credit report. Some parents wouldn’t even blink to commend their child on how well of a job they did on the other grades, because they’re so focused on the lower grade.

That is our society, that is how most of us live and how I used to live. I used to focus so much on my negative, that I projected out onto others, even though I was always known as the ‘smiling one.’ I am what you call, a recovering perfectionist. I used to set higher expectations on myself, therefore setting up higher expectations for those around me. I walked on a tightrope, they walked on eggshells. Maybe some of you can relate, as I used to always look out for all the things that could go wrong and you betcha, they always did.